I know. Laughable right? “Me time”? Or maybe you don’t think it’s funny, perhaps this is something you require in your life as a mom. You know – a little “mommy time” to get away from the chaos and indulge yourself with milkshakes and pedicures? Modern day Christian mothers must learn to think biblically amidst a culture that encourages mother’s to break-free from the so called slave cycle of wiping snot and serving their husbands at home. A culture that esteems shopping in doggy boutiques of more importance then tending to souls – which requires death to self.
If you cling to your life, you will lose it; but if you give up your life for me, you will find it. Matthew 10:39
It doesn’t get more biblical than that dear friends. Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t a mandate to put your sweat-pants on and settle into the world of letting yourself go and never taking time to retreat as a means of re-focusing in order to serve your family well. Believe me. I’m completely and utterly grateful to my dear husband for sending me off every once and a while to a coffee shop with my Bible and journal…to re-gain perspective and draw encouragement from God’s Word. But if this becomes our sole focus, and the heat of anger swells within when we can’t have these times away….or, perhaps, this season in life just doesn’t afford it, you can be sure you’ve fallen prey to the world’s lies. If “mommy time” is the only joy you speak of, the only pursuit you put your passion behind, it’s a good indicator your innocent desire has become a lethal idol waiting to destroy you.
Our calling as Christian women – wives and mothers is people-oriented. We are not called to serve ourselves and our own needs. If you give up your life for me, you will find it. Rachel Jankovic, author of “Loving The Little Years”, helps us to conclude it this way,
“…you cannot know what your calling is until you know who your calling is. Until you are married, you are not tied to a specific person. Marriage reorients you entirely. Children do even more. Then it is your calling to help your husband by raising these little people. People, people everywhere and no time for yourself. But remember that this is your calling. It belongs to you. They belong to you.”